Organized Religion

I go to a "culturally, religiously and ethnically diverse" school. I've had many friends approach me, saying they are atheist but having once been strongly Christian or dedicated to some church. And what's going on now? They don't believe in organized religion. For a while, I found that mildly unreasonable, but nonetheless understandable. I've been in churches where new, different people receive glances of accusation, like they aren't worthy to attend that church. I never understood why some churches are more like country clubs: how scheming can get you far and blackmailing and get you further. Anytime anyone was looking for a place to go and had given up hope in religion, I had always offered them my church, claiming how 'different' it was.
And, don't get me wrong, it was different.
My youth group was an open place where the "unmentionables" were accepted: gays, lesbians, bisexuals, some people with slight criminal records too.
No one cared what kind of social status you withheld or what neighborhood you lived in.
There was always someone who would listen to your problems, never judging or thinking of your differently just because of the way you were handling things.

Now, I'm not so sure. After the recent turn of events, I've begun to think quite the opposite. My church isn't accepting. It's nowhere near that point. How can I honestly tell my companions that there is a place where God is present and there won't anyone pressuring them into some kind of Communion or membership? How can I advise that they find solace in a place without judgment when that place accuses one of its original members of something they would never do?
Beyond this, I'm beginning to agree with this whole "not believing in organized religion" thing.
I've observed that, maybe, it's possible to be too organized. The point of worship isn't to plan every single minute of it. When everything is planned, it's more likely that someone is going to be forced to do something they don't want to do. When that happens, they tend to resent that kind of organization. Then, they hate it. Then, they doubt everything they grew upon, thus starting the whole process over. Maybe, everyone just needs some chaos.

Later Days,
Peace
H